Over in the UK is a great programmes called Mistresses, and it is about a group of woman that are friends but have their minds elsewhere so to speak. Some of the friends have had partners that have died or some are married and are doing the worst deed.
It made me think about how people could dream of it.
The very thought is not at all a pleasant one. For example, a classic affair tends to be in marriages and a recent statistic has shown that 90% of affairs get found out through emails and also phone messages. No matter how careful people are, there will be always a dark presence over them- guilt. When you get married, in any religion you take a set of vows dedicating to be with the one you love and no one else.
For example, in Christianity the wedding vows are:
“Do you, __ take __ to be your (wife/husband)? Do you promise to love, honor, cherish and protect her/him, forsaking all others and holding only unto her/him?” (“I do”) “I __ , take thee __ , to be my (wife/husband) to have and to hold, in sickness and in health, for richer or for poorer, and I promise my love to you..”
Before going on and exchanging rings saying: “With this ring, I thee wed; all my love, I do thee give.”
Some vows are different but they tend to generally go around this idea: “Do you take ___ as your lawful wife/husband, to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and cherish until death do you part?”
What I would question is why do people take these vows and then break them and have affairs? If you do not wish to stick to these vows why make them and get married in the first place.
But in all seriousness what is a mistress? Everyone has their perception and their ideals but in general a mistress surely is not all it is cracked up to be. There is good sex, hotel room adventures, late nights, seductive phone calls, exciting secret dates, gifts and the thrill of doing something bad.
Many people are happily married before it gets boring and then they play as such. However this is not true in all cases. Many people tend to fall into marriage to avoid what the evitable may be. These relationships are the ones that tend to end in deception because people cannot change. No matter what they do, or how they try to think.
Mistresses may thrive on the emotional pain, and hurt that they are causing. They tend to live in fantasy land that they will be happy eventually and this tends to be short lived especially when they get found out.Having an affair with someone who is married or not as in some cases, it is not socially or morally nice. Being cheated on is the worst feeling and it is one that we do not want to be in. Many people get hurt and many will suffer for years as a result.
Being involved as a mistress or in an affair, shows that you are not looking for commitment in a relationship. Having to cover your tracks, lie, is no fun for no one and only hurts more people in the long run.People tend to get found out by the easiest and simple signs, staying up late on the computer, getting up early before your partners, being secretive either with the internet or with your phone. Body language plays a big part, it could be from before if out with friends etc, all these signs are easy read and will get you found out.
